Self-Care for Moms: Because You Deserve It Too!
Motherhood is everything they said it would be and more. It’s beautiful, messy, fulfilling, and yes, absolutely draining at times. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve put myself last, thinking, “If I can just get through today, I’ll focus on me tomorrow.” But tomorrow comes, and the cycle continues. Sound familiar? If it does, let me remind you of something I’ve learned the hard way: taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s survival. It’s how we keep going and showing up for the people we love most. So, let’s talk about self-care—not the Instagram-worthy version with bubble baths and candles (though those are nice) but the real, gritty, and achievable kind that fits into the chaos of motherhood.
1. Start Small and Simple
When was the last time you actually drank your coffee while it was hot? Or took five minutes to breathe—really breathe—without a to-do list running through your mind? Self-care doesn’t have to mean an entire day off (though wouldn’t that be dreamy?). Start with the small things: a quiet moment in the morning, a walk around the block, or even a long shower. These tiny pockets of time can feel like lifelines.
2. Put “Me Time” on the Calendar
Here’s a game-changer: treat your self-care like an appointment. You wouldn’t skip a doctor’s visit or a parent-teacher conference, right? Block out time for yourself—even if it’s just 15 minutes—and guard it fiercely. I’ve started doing this, and it’s amazing how much more grounded I feel knowing there’s a moment carved out just for me.
3. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
This one took me years to embrace. I used to think asking for help meant I wasn’t strong enough, but the truth is, no one can do it all. Whether it’s asking your partner to handle bedtime or leaning on a friend for moral support, sharing the load is one of the best forms of self-care.
4. Say “No” Without Guilt
Let’s face it: as moms, we’re pulled in a million directions. PTA meetings, playdates, work deadlines—it’s endless. Learning to say “no” has been one of the most freeing things I’ve done. Every “yes” to someone else is a “no” to yourself. Protect your energy and focus on what truly matters.
5. Feed Your Body and Soul
I know how easy it is to grab whatever’s leftover on your kids’ plates, but your body deserves better. Nourish yourself with good food, stay hydrated, and if sleep feels like an unattainable dream, sneak in naps when you can. Taking care of your body is foundational to feeling your best.
6. Rediscover What Lights You Up
Before motherhood, what made you happy? Painting? Dancing? Writing? Whatever it was, find a way to bring it back into your life. For me, it’s writing—it’s my therapy, my outlet, and my way of reconnecting with myself. What’s yours?
7. Build Your Village
Motherhood can feel lonely, but it doesn’t have to be. Surround yourself with people who get it—other moms who understand the exhaustion, the joy, and everything in between. Whether it’s a local mom group or an online community, having a support system makes all the difference.
8. Take Care of Your Mind
Mental health is just as important as physical health. Whether it’s meditating for five minutes a day, journaling, or even seeking therapy, make space for your emotional well-being. Talking to someone about the struggles of motherhood doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human
9. Celebrate the Little Wins
Some days, getting everyone dressed and out the door feels like climbing Mount Everest. Celebrate those moments! Motherhood is full of small victories, and acknowledging them can shift your perspective and brighten your day.
